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"Mother in UK forced 14-year-old to get pregnant."
A divorcee living with her three adopted children was denied the right to adopt another child, so she resorted to forcing her eldest child to fall pregnant with a sperm she bought online. After seven miscarriages the daughter - seventeen at the time - finally gave birth to a bouncing baby boy, but her mother told her not to breastfeed him because "... we don't want any of that attachment thing." The mother was taken into custody, charged for child cruelty for a five year sentence.
http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/parenting/mother-in-uk-forced-14-year-old-to-get-pregnant/story-fnet08ck-1226631901344
Now this story is very alarming to me. This woman has three adopted children (from not being able to have them or personal choice, I am unaware) and was seeking out a fourth, but being an only parent I doubt they were allowed to give her another child. This woman was so determined to have that fourth child (again, it is unknown why) that she must have told her fourteen-year-old daughter what she desired. What really shook me was that the daughter said that she wasn't forced. The teenager agreed to the bizarre plan because she thought that if she went through with the pregnancy her mother would love her more. It can be seen that the mother obviously did not show her love for the children very well.
It is my perception and my perception alone that the woman in question adopted the children with the now-ex-husband. Here's the story (COMPLETELY hypothetical of course):
A woman and man were married but unable to conceive children of their own. They decided they would adopt because they had that urge to take care of children. After taking care of one child, they decided to adopt a second child. Then a third. This is where the story gets complicated; they could not handle the stress of the three children (perhaps due to money reasons) and they grew apart, eventually divorcing. Distraught by the lack of a husband and not wishing to seek out another man (possibly she'd reached a certain age where she could not handle another man), she desired to adopt one more child. Perhaps this child could fill the hole that was left in her heart, seeing as the other three children she won custody over weren't working. Their faces just reminded her of the good times she used to have with her husband, so her love corroded and twisted into regret and denial. Denied the right to adopt once again, she lost her mind. Nothing could fill the void, so she threw all caution (and sanity) to the wind. She had developed a fool proof plan ... or so she thought. She approached her daughter, fourteen at the time, and begged her to go along with the plan, not expecting to actually get a yes from her. While browsing online she found a website that sold sperm for a reasonable price. It looked legitimate enough. Attempt one ended badly with a miscarriage. Attempts two and three didn't work either. Four, five and six showed no light at the end of the tunnel. Slowly her sanity, or what was left of it, withered away. All the money she had wasted on the faulty sperm was starting to agitate her and she began targeting her second-eldest child, who had recently turned fifteen. Perhaps it's not the sperm that's faulty, she began to think. Perhaps my daughter has inherited the horrible curse of not being able to conceive. She began consulting her next option (for she did not consider her children to be actual children, only means of income or breeding) but was stopped by the eldest child once again, now seventeen. The daughter begged to be given one more chance. This baby was the only hope of earning her mother's love once again. Granted one final shot to impress, the daughter tried her very hardest to fall pregnant ... and succeeded! However, the outcome was anything but desired. The mother sought a girl, but a baby boy was given life that day. Not only was the daughter not allowed to breastfeed the boy, she was also not given the love she thought she deserved. Knowing that nothing good would come from what she had done, the daughter consulted the midwives and alerted them of the situation.
That was entirely my perception of the news article, but it still makes me ill to think about that family situation. A broken marriage, adopted children, forced teenage pregnancies, a loveless home, a boy brought into a world where it all made sense to the family ...
It's stories like this that make me wish I could live in ignorance.
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